There was a time I’d scroll through faces and feel something. A look. A caption. A glimmer in their eyes that reminded me of before—before I changed, before I committed. I wasn’t just looking at profiles. I was scanning for sparks.

I’d think, “That one… I see it. They’ve got it in them.”

And I wasn’t wrong about what I saw. The potential was real. But what I didn’t understand back then was that a spark isn’t the same as fire. A moment of inspiration, a good mood, a “motivated” selfie—it doesn’t always mean someone’s ready to change. I was seeing their possibility, not their position in the process.

So I tried to meet them with energy. I tried to pull them into action. I compared where they were to where I’d been and thought if I just gave them enough insight, enough encouragement, enough belief—they’d leap forward.

But they hadn’t committed yet. Some were still in contemplation, others barely stepping into preparation. And no matter how much I gave, I couldn’t force a shift they hadn’t chosen. I was fighting for their potential, while they were clinging to their persona. I was trying to help the version of them I hoped they’d become—not the one they were still holding onto.

And I see it now—it was never my right or responsibility to force change.
Even with good intentions, pushing someone who isn’t ready doesn’t help them—it only exhausts you both. Change has to be claimed, not handed out. People have to decide for themselves that they’re worth the effort.

That’s when it clicked.

I remembered flying through my personal training certification, not because I was trying to memorize facts, but because the course was describing me. High self-efficacy, internal motivation, behavioral consistency—I had already lived it. The science wasn’t showing me how to win. It was explaining why I had.

That shift changed everything.

I stopped knocking on doors. I stopped chasing sparks in people’s eyes, hoping to pull them into something they weren’t ready for. Instead, I focused on living the example. Quiet, steady, consistent. I offer what I know, but I no longer try to persuade anyone to take it. I just stay ready for those who are ready for themselves.

IntraConversions isn’t here to convince—it’s here to be found.
It’s a space for those who’ve made the decision.
For those who say, “This time, I’m finishing.”