Ever notice how a small mishap can cling to you, becoming heavier the more you dwell on it? For me, I’ve found power in brushing off those moments and moving forward without looking back. It’s about leaving behind what doesn’t serve me—and prioritizing where I’m headed.

I don’t post about the tough moments we all inevitably face. The reason is simple: I’m already moving past them. For me, the process of getting over a bad moment starts the second after it happens. By not capturing it, I let it drift away instead of anchoring it in my life. The quicker I shift my focus, the faster those moments lose their weight and power. Posting about it or inviting others in feels like stamping it in time. This action opens an invitation for people to bring it back up. Unintentionally reviving something I’ve already left behind.

A few weeks back, I had a perfect example of this. I fell through a pallet at work—one second I’m stepping through, and the next, I’m halfway down it. I immediately got up, brushed it off, and moved on with my day. I laughed it off with a couple of people who’d get the humor, and that was it. Imagine if I’d shared it everywhere. It could have easily spiraled: meetings about safety protocols, people constantly checking up, “Hey, are you okay, man?” What would have been finished for me in minutes. It could have dragged on for months. This would turn a simple trip-up into a whole saga. By keeping it light and quick, it was gone from my mind by the end of the day.

Everyone’s different—I’m not here to tell others how to handle their lives. But for me, capturing those kinds of moments only weighs me down. Our attention directs our energy. I’d rather use that energy for growth, positivity, and the good that keeps me moving forward.

I focus on the positive intentionally. This reinforces the identity I’ve chosen for myself. I am someone who overcomes, not someone held back by setbacks. This habit builds resilience. It trains me to recognize wins over losses. I see progress over problems, inviting more of what I want into my life.

We often share our tough times, and this opens the floodgates for others to add their grievances. It creates a collective echo that grows heavier with every response. But imagine if we poured that same energy into celebrating each other’s successes with the same intensity. What if we trained ourselves to pile on the good moments? Imagine a community that amplifies growth, resilience, and positivity instead of reinforcing struggle.

So, this is how I handle it—and I know it’s not for everyone. You might find that intentionally choosing where your energy goes leads to a lighter mindset. It also leads to a stronger mindset. This shift isn’t about brushing things under the rug; it’s about prioritizing where you’re headed over where you’ve been.

If we’re going to create a pile, let’s make it a mountain of good moments to climb, together. Let’s normalize amplifying joy and resilience so that we’re all lifting each other up in the process.

take care.